Fears are educated into us, and can, if we wish, be educated out ~ Karl Augustus Menninger

Last Saturday, my family took our first trip to Six Flags Discovery Kingdom in Vallejo, California.  My wife had the idea of challenging Chris to conquer his fear of roller coasters.  I was totally on board with the idea because I know that continuing to run from conquering this fear will only teach him it’s okay to quit.  It was the first time our son Chris ever went on a roller coaster so the anxiety and anticipation while waiting in line really got to him.  At times in line he panicked, begged to not go on the ride, and even cried. HAHA. I tried making him go on roller coasters in the past few years but he always declined because he was afraid. The point of challenging him to go on the roller coaster wasn’t to scare him but to make him realize that he can overcome fears and that the only way to deal with any fear is to face it head on.  Also, it was done to show him that he can trust my wife and I to put him in situations that won’t hurt him, but that will only cause him to grow and mature in a healthy way. Fear is something we create in our mind and in time if it’s not dealt with, it will only festers, intensifies, and grows.  To further prove my point our daughters, Franchesca 5, and Annabelle 3 years old were introduced by their mother to rides at a young age. Therefore, roller coasters are not a source of fear but instead bring only smiles to their faces.

As a parent, we can’t protect our  children from everything but what we can teach them is how to deal and cope when things don’t go their way. Personally I believe protecting your children is a parents duty, but I also believe that overprotecting your children will cripple them. Sometimes as parents we tend to underestimate our children’s abilities and give up on them or aren’t patient enough to allow the children to sort and learn through their mistakes.  Some of the greatest lessons I’ve learned are from my facing my fears.  Confronting those fears have only made me a stronger person and has really taught me that God used these lessons so I could pass them on to my kids.

I know everyone can relate to the topic of fear, whether it’s heights, flying, the dark. Where others could be effected with more personal fears such as rejection, failure, intimacy, and commitment.  Running away and denying to confront our fears will only delay your maturity and keep us from experiencing life’s pleasures.

After standing hours in line, I’m proud to say that Chris went on Kong and Medusa, two of faster and intimidating roller coasters at Six Flags. Although he admitted he’s still afraid of roller coasters, at the end of the day he said, “I’m happy and surprised myself.  I’m happy that I conquered this fear.”

Chris and I on KONG.  Looks at Chris’ face. LMAO!! *Photo credit goes to my lovely wife 🙂

Get ready for take off!! *Photo Credit again goes to the wifey 🙂

That’s Chris and I in the front row. Again….Chris is terrified, but he finished 🙂 * Photo credit goes to the wifey once again.

Monique waves at the camera while Chris holds on to dear life. Hahaha!!

Sky Flyer. Honestly this ride scares me more than all the other rides at Six Flags.

Chris looking up, Chess looking straight down and my wife having a anxiety attack. I don’t blame her.  The idea of being held my thin chains and tall heights doesn’t sit right with me either.

Annabelle just turned 4 almost a month ago 🙂

Franchesca aka Cheese screaming on one of the rides…

Chris expression after telling him next time I’m going to take him on Kong ten times in a row 🙂

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